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I wish obituaries were required to list . .

By: NCSU Dad
7/31/2019 6:15 AM

cause of death.

I understand families want present their lost love ones in the most positive light. Most likely those who know the family personally already know the history.

We are losing lots of people to overdose and/or suicide. I can't help but think listing cause of death could somehow show how big the problem is.



By: jfalba
7/31/2019 7:36 AM

are there any ideas where the supply is coming from? example our little PA town is on route from Detroit….Youngstown Ohio then us. Police know so they go looking for the "Detroit boys" and make it more difficult for the users to find. plus the newspapers highlight people that were brought back with Narcan..so that too helps a little. It seems we all find out the cause of death pretty quickly here.


By: Grim_Smoker
8/4/2019 1:16 AM

So many junkies down here. Supply is coming from EC from what I hear. But noone will talk (derp). Doesn't help that some very wealthy people here are some of the backers.


By: Mstaszew
8/4/2019 11:53 AM

Some counties in the country have a coroners report that will list it. NC Office of the Chief Medical Officer has a report on heroin/fentanyl that lists data in recent years through 2017... Click to follow link...

In the end, it's probably no one's business reading an obit other than to just satisfy nosiness and if it's someone in particular you're curious about you'll probably catch wind through the rumor mill in time.

The problem is already widely known. You can't swing a dead cat without hearing about it all the time in mainstream news.

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By: PaulOinMA
8/4/2019 3:22 PM

… In the end, it's probably no one's business reading an obit other than to just satisfy nosiness …

I agree. If a family prefers a euphemism, who am I to tell them that's not acceptable?

A cousin in MI committed suicide in 2012. Obituary listed "passed away suddenly." That probably reads better in a newspaper than "blew his brains out."

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By: KHbiker
8/5/2019 9:11 AM

Another hint. At the end of the obit sometimes they state "Donations to the Cancer organization (or whatever org) are greatly appreciated". Usually a strong hint as to cause of death.

And I agree, it's up to the family if they want to state COD. Young kids, drugs or car accidents and all.


By: hoi toide
8/5/2019 9:22 AM

Cause of death isn’t always as straightforward as you might think. Sometimes it’s necessary to wait awhile for a toxicologist or pathologist report. Not everyone requires a coroners report, so it’s left to an attending M.D. who may not get all the pertinent history leading up to the event.

Even with all that, it is still a somewhat murky scientific guess at times...


By: rpemers
8/5/2019 11:43 AM

This post could go in a few different directions but I suppose at the end of the day it's the family who decides what goes in an obituary.

Personally I believe if people had easier affordable access to mental health services there would be fewer drug overdoses and suicides. There have been times in my life where I had trouble dealing with things but I never once though about taking my own life or using hard drugs. I opted for counseling but, thankfully I've always had great medical coverage that made it an affordable choice.

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By: Blue Fish
8/6/2019 4:48 AM

Next month will make 40 years I've been in the local radio business. We still read the obituaries everyday, just as our local newspaper publishes them. Different organizations have different policies. Ours has always been the same... we only accept obituaries from the funeral homes, not from the families or friends. Once in awhile, someone tries to pull a practical joke. The funeral homes are strictly regulated in the information they provide about the deceased of a family they are serving. Try calling up a funeral home and ask them how someone, whose body they have, died. They'll let you know right away that such information is a confidential trust between the funeral home and the family they are serving. What you can learn is statistics from the reporting agencies - number of deaths, causes, etc., without the names attached.

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