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Has civility slipped alot?

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Is there a refrigerator in the bunker? Whistle Wink smiley






[disclaimer: this is a joke, only a joke }


I think there is, but no electricity.


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RE: Has civility slipped alot?




Back to the topic.

I was run off an auto forum by a troll. I replied to a post about a radiator problem that sounded like a blown head gasket. I suggested they sit with the engine on, cap off and a cold six; if the bubbles do not stop before the six is gone, trade it in. Thereafter a troll lambasted me for passing a problem to the next guy.

Another forum turned into a shooting gallery and shortly thereafter vanished.

I participate in a boat forum that is surprisingly supportive, warm and kind. So much so that the occasional misstep really stands out. The efforts folks in that community expend to tactfully bring a thread back from the ditch is remarkable.

I can't say I'm perfect, but I try contributing to solutions. When the general tone shifts to problems, armchair judging, self promotion and ping pong insults, I find other diversions.

In an effort to preserve this community, I suggest we stop posting with the first troll's "say so", and pick up the topic elsewhere.




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Not just on this forum, but forums in general, has anyone besides me noticed that responses to opinions, likes, dislikes etc. seem to be met with more snarky, mean & generally just not nice remarks?
Everyone can agree to disagree, but it seems that more & more, a lot seem to want to disagree in a nastier mode.

The old saying of "the more I know people, the better I like my dog" seems to be more true all the time.

Now someone can respond about they hate dogs if they want to.


Yeah ... let him that hath no sin cast the first stone:

"Seatbelt enforcement might have been started for safety in md, but it is used for income now. In our town they will practically call out the swat team for a seatbelt violation , yet the law about children wearing helmets on bicycles is completely ignored."
my point: 3 in and there you go.


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Well, milk certainly tastes better on my cornflakes than rum.....


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Com'n Charlie, we're from Philly ....sarcasm is us! I wish I could visit with you while you are on the banks. I think you guys will love it ... and I can STILL talk about the Phillies all day!


Don't even get me started about the Phils. Sad smiley

I guess it's the Philly in me that takes sarcasm from non Philly peeps as suspect, lol. Laughing smiley


RE: Has civility slipped alot?




Not just on this forum, but forums in general, has anyone besides me noticed that responses to opinions, likes, dislikes etc. seem to be met with more snarky, mean & generally just not nice remarks?
Everyone can agree to disagree, but it seems that more & more, a lot seem to want to disagree in a nastier mode.

The old saying of "the more I know people, the better I like my dog" seems to be more true all the time.

Now someone can respond about they hate dogs if they want to.


Yeah ... let him that hath no sin cast the first stone:

"Seatbelt enforcement might have been started for safety in md, but it is used for income now. In our town they will practically call out the swat team for a seatbelt violation , yet the law about children wearing helmets on bicycles is completely ignored."
my point: 3 in and there you go.


Lighten up Francis ... it's only the internet. If a post offends you ... well then u have the option of ignoring it ... not reading it, or making a comment if it floats your boat. Only judge Judy can make a decision on the quality/quantity of reasonable posts on an internet message board.


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...people will write things that they'd never consider saying in the here and now of real life.

...the written word is easily misconstrued for a variety of reasons - one of which is the lack of facial cues. It is so easy to take brevity for unpleasantness, etc.

Agree especially with those, and everything else you said.


Now someone can respond about they hate dogs if they want to.

NEVER!!! Theeth smiley

It's part of why I'm getting really tired of Facebook.....

You ain't a kiddin'. I now just scroll very quickly through, skipping the one friend who posts 25 pictures A DAY of her daughter and the outfit du jour, the well meaning dog rescue lady who posts graphic abuse pictures without warning (and then my day is RUINED), and the rest of the general drivel and selfies.


Posting a photo with Al Sharpton in it for any reason.

Now that depends - which Al? Fat Al or Skinny Al?


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No nuance or intonation in the written word, and some ppl seem to be insulted by anything. Let it roll off your back. It's just not worth the over reaction and worry.

Now, where is my unicorn and my fairy dust, and rainbow?


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No nuance or intonation in the written word, and some ppl seem to be insulted by anything. Let it roll off your back. It's just not worth the over reaction and worry.

Now, where is my unicorn and my fairy dust, and rainbow?


Forget the unicorn et al, where is the fisherwoman from your avatar?

In all seriousness, who plans to be around for "A Day at the Docks" in Hatteras Village 9/17-9/19? A few of us I'm sure could gather together for some fresh seafood, nuance, adult beverages, intonation, infotainment, facial expressions and a chance to get out from behind the keyboard and in all likelihood make new friends. We're game, we'll be at the Breakwater 9/11-9/20. Thumbs up Perhaps we could have the sunset on our differences.




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Com'n Charlie, we're from Philly ....sarcasm is us! I wish I could visit with you while you are on the banks. I think you guys will love it ... and I can STILL talk about the Phillies all day!


Don't even get me started about the Phils. Sad smiley

I guess it's the Philly in me that takes sarcasm from non Philly peeps as suspect, lol. Laughing smiley


How about that no hitter Charlie? They're making their move! I've been a mostly suffering Philly fan since 1952. We grab anything we can .... and they are stIll my favorite team!


RE: Has civility slipped alot?




Not just on this forum, but forums in general, has anyone besides me noticed that responses to opinions, likes, dislikes etc. seem to be met with more snarky, mean & generally just not nice remarks?
Everyone can agree to disagree, but it seems that more & more, a lot seem to want to disagree in a nastier mode.

The old saying of "the more I know people, the better I like my dog" seems to be more true all the time.

Now someone can respond about they hate dogs if they want to.


I've always been more a cat person myself Laughing smiley Sorry I couldn't resist. I've noticed it too. It truly is a different world now.

Thanks, Nut! I was thinking the exact same thing!


RE: Has civility slipped alot?




No nuance or intonation in the written word, and some ppl seem to be insulted by anything. Let it roll off your back. It's just not worth the over reaction and worry.

Now, where is my unicorn and my fairy dust, and rainbow?


Forget the unicorn et al, where is the fisherwoman from your avatar?

In all seriousness, who plans to be around for "A Day at the Docks" in Hatteras Village 9/17-9/19? A few of us I'm sure could gather together for some fresh seafood, nuance, adult beverages, intonation, infotainment, facial expressions and a chance to get out from behind the keyboard and in all likelihood make new friends. We're game, we'll be at the Breakwater 9/11-9/20. Thumbs up Perhaps we could have the sunset on our differences.


I should be there, but judyk has resisted all my attempts to see a real photo of her..... Confused


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There's one in my FB photos Rob, but it is from when I was in my 20s, maybe 30s


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Dennis - you have GOT to get off this milk thing. Unless you are an infant, adolescent or have osteoporosis you have no business touching milk! What are you a damn dairy farmer?


In my young Navy days, I yearned for those liquor runs to the Caribbean and was quite proud of my record setting 25 rum and coke Dixie cup drinks at the Gitmo EM club Christmas of 66.

Now an occasional fuzzy naval, but a cold glass of 2 percent milk and oreo cookies with the younger Grandchildren is my fix.

It is reported that when we took a sea cruise to Alaska the cruse line had to being a dairy cow on board to meet my needs.

Does that mean no invite to the bunker?


I was sitting here thinking, what happened to the Oreos as we have to have those with the 2% milk. Double stuff is best but I save that eating for the turtle nest.


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oreos & 2% milk is proof there is a god.


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OBX Connection is much more civil than a lot of the forums I visit. The different areas have different tones, but for the most part the posts are nice.

A big part of the internet tough talk is because they hide behind a keyboard. There's no chance that they would speak to somebody in person like they do online. I guess it's sorta a release. It's kinda of a shame that someone would receive some kind of joy by being rude online.

I'm just not wired that way. I try my best to be nice and courteous to people (online and in person). I guess it's all in how you're raised.

John


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The trolling doesn't bother me, they are easy to ignore.

What I find disturbing with the internet are these "echo chambers" that have been created. People go online with their views (right or wrong) and find other like minded people. They spout off, and their views are echoed back to them by others which justifies their view as being "correct". Anyone that presents any alterior view is piled up and and shunned away. What you end up with are highly opinionated people who genuinly belive their opion to be fact and refuse to absorb any contridicting evidence.




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This forum has helped me learn a lot over the years...restaurants, things to do, places to see, experiences to try. I love getting ideas from trip reports and seeing photos from different perspectives. I read what I like and scroll past what I don't!!!


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... The trolling doesn't bother me, they are easy to ignore ...


So true. Just ignore their posts when you see their avatar on here. Scroll by. No reason to read their posts. Theeth smiley


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A big part of the internet tough talk is because they hide behind a keyboard. There's no chance that they would speak to somebody in person like they do online.
John


You hit the nail on the head!


RE: Has civility slipped alot?






A big part of the internet tough talk is because they hide behind a keyboard. There's no chance that they would speak to somebody in person like they do online.
John


You hit the nail on the head!


The scary part about that, however, is that even though they would never speak to somebody like that in person... they want to. Sadly, the internet has opened my eyes to how many angry, narcisitic ego-maniacs there are in this world. They are everywhere.


RE: Has civility slipped alot?






A big part of the internet tough talk is because they hide behind a keyboard. There's no chance that they would speak to somebody in person like they do online.
John


You hit the nail on the head!


The scary part about that, however, is that even though they would never speak to somebody like that in person... they want to. Sadly, the internet has opened my eyes to how many angry, narcisitic ego-maniacs there are in this world. They are everywhere.


...and the sad part about that is the internet made them that way!


RE: Has civility slipped alot?




The trolling doesn't bother me, they are easy to ignore.

What I find disturbing with the internet are these "echo chambers" that have been created. People go online with their views (right or wrong) and find other like minded people. They spout off, and their views are echoed back to them by others which justifies their view as being "correct". Anyone that presents any alterior view is piled up and and shunned away. What you end up with are highly opinionated people who genuinly belive their opion to be fact and refuse to absorb any contridicting evidence.


People validating each other is quite prevalent....and scary sometimes. "I read it on the internet, so it must be true." Or "look at all these people who think the same thing, well d@mn, we must be right."

I swear, some people should need a license to operate a computer.


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... People validating each other is quite prevalent....and scary sometimes. "I read it on the internet, so it must be true." Or "look at all these people who think the same thing, well d@mn, we must be right." ...


My in-laws are racist bigots. The internet is all my MIl needs to validate what she believes. My wife doesn't even forward to me the things she receives from her mother.


RE: Has civility slipped alot?




... People validating each other is quite prevalent....and scary sometimes. "I read it on the internet, so it must be true." Or "look at all these people who think the same thing, well d@mn, we must be right." ...


My in-laws are racist bigots. The internet is all my MIl needs to validate what she believes. My wife doesn't even forward to me the things she receives from her mother.


I, sadly, also come from a family where bigotry/racism runs rampant. I also have a grandmother who actually stopped going to church because they were allowing homeless people access to their food bank. All I can do in my life is try to be a lot more loving and tolerant than the family that came before me.


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